Every relationship has its ups and downs, it is not all rainbows and butterflies, and it is especially difficult to mend if you and your significant other have distance in between, but never fret! As you read on below, you will be able to know that these “downs” in your relationships are very common and there are solutions to it.
Every person at one point in their lives will be able to experience a long-distance relationship but if you are one of the few people who will not then you are lucky! It is obviously not easy being in a relationship, let alone a long distance one where you and your partner are a thousand miles apart, but if you are with the right person then chances are it will not be difficult.
Love is tough. It takes a lot of commitment and hard work to make it fulfilling. It is not all smiles and dates all the time. There will be times when you and your partner will fight and even hate each other for petty reasons. But you should never give up on the people you love.
Even at times when your partner is the most difficult to love, you choose to love him or her despite the worst moments. The most important thing to remember is that this happens to every relationship and that in every problem you encounter, there is always a solution!
Here are common problems in long distance relationships, and their solutions:
Miscommunication: The number one breaker of long-distance relationships is miscommunication. You cannot have less of it nor can you have more of it.
Communication must be balanced and without it, your relationship is destined to doom. Sometimes, you will feel like you and your partner are not talking enough or the opposite of that, with your partner hitting your phone up every minute – both are not good indicators of a healthy relationship.
Your partner is your confidant so you should be able to tell him or her the way you really feel. Do not be afraid and do not bottle up your feelings because if he or she really loves you, then he or she will understand. If you are not comfortable with your partner hanging out with a particular person then do not hesitate to relate that to him or her.
If your partner is now willing to share his or her problems with you because he or she does not want to bother you, then make your partner feel that you are open to helping.
Balance is key that is why to avoid miscommunication, you and your partner should properly talk with each other. You need not talk with each other every minute of every day because the most important thing is that when you talk, both of you are able to relay your feelings and problems and talk about it in the open instead of keeping it to yourselves. Remember, it is important to have said it than to not have said it and regret it later
The green-eyed monster is present in every relationship. It resides in the heart and sees the world through the person’s eyes. It is completely normal to feel the green-eyed monster, also known as jealousy, inside you. Jealousy is also a pretty common problem in any relationship whether long distance or not.
The green-eyed monster spares no one, whether it is the cute secretary your partner works with or the nerdy classmate your significant other is in partner with for a project. It is irrational, it is clingy, and more importantly, it can take over your whole body.
If you keep feeding your jealousy then there is a very high chance that it will take over your thinking and make you do irrational things like calling your partner every hour or forbidding him or her to go out with anyone at all.
Never give in to the green-eyed monster.
If there is no reason for you to be jealous then do not be jealous! Trust your partner enough to not think about made up issues in your mind. If you pick at every detail like “Why did she text him if he has the reports?” or “Why is he making that project with her?” then you will never be able to rest. Do not give motives to people who do not need them
1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”
It is incredibly easy to get jealous when in a long-distance relationship. The unknown is scary, and you can never be too sure where your significant other is. Although it is not a reassuring feeling, put faith in God that he will deter you or your significant other from any temptation brought forth that could hurt the relationship. Trust is very important in a long-distance relationship, and if trust is something you have trouble with then ask God for trust in your partner and He will grant it to you.
Loneliness: Loneliness is a dear old friend who comes by occasionally, but in long distance relationships, loneliness is sometimes not very welcome. There will be times when loneliness will visit you, but this is a very common thing to feel. Loneliness is there because your partner is not with you.
If you look at the positive side, you may be feeling lonely because you long for the love that you feel when your partner is there with you.
There can be many causes of loneliness. It may be because you and your partner live in different time zones therefore when he or she is asleep, you are wide awake and having breakfast.
It may also be because of busy work schedules because even if you two are in a relationship, you are still two different people, or it can even be one of the simplest reasons – you just miss your partner. The cure for loneliness is to place daily reminders around your house of your partner.