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Why rejection is good for you

by News Echo
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Generally, the word rejection connotes the feeling of being left out. It could be defined as the act of pushing someone or something away. One may experience rejection from one’s family of origin, a friend, or a romantic partner, and the resulting emotions can often be painful.

Rejection can be experienced in heavy or light ways in everyday life. Some types of rejections may be more difficult than others. Rejection can occur in a variety of circumstances. It describes an instance of a person or entity pushing something or someone away or out. For example a person may reject or refuse to accept a gift.

Rejection most frequently refers to the feelings of shame, sadness or grief people have when they are not accepted by others. A child who has few or no friends may feel rejected by peers. An individual who was given up for adoption may also experience feelings of rejection. Rejection can also result from life events not involving relationships, such as being turned down for a desired position at work or receiving a rejection letter from a college.

Some rejections may be more impactful than others because most humans’ desire social contacts and people crave for acceptance from the society. Being rejected can incite negative feelings and emotions. Today, many people isolate themselves or hold back from connecting to others because they’re afraid of being rejected. Fear of or sensitivity to rejection that causes someone to pull away from others can lead to chronic feelings of loneliness and depression. Rejection sensitivity can occur with many mental health issues including social anxiety, avoidant personality and borderline personality.

The pain of rejection is real whether you were turned down for a date, dumped by someone you thought loved you, or hurt in some way by your long-term partner; the pain of rejection is undeniable. Rejection is an almost unavoidable aspect of being human. There is hardly any successful life story or relationship that is totally devoid of rejection at one point or another.

We all experience it, and those times we do, are often the times we feel the most alone, outcast and unwanted. In fact, so much of the hurt and struggles we endure isn’t even based on the cause of the rejection but on what we tell ourselves about the experience, the cruel ways we put ourselves down or flood ourselves with hopeless thoughts about the future.

Studies even show that our reaction to rejection is also based on elements and events surrounding our past, like our attachment to history. As a result, how we react to rejection is often equally or even more significant than the rejection itself. This is why learning how to deal with rejection is so important. Even Jesus faced rejection while on earth which was not easy for him. The bible says that Jesus was rejected by both men and God. He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrow and acquainted with grief and as one from whom men hide their faces he was despised and we esteemed him not. (Isaiah 53:3)

Rejection occurs in different areas of human life which if not properly handled brings the individual into the state of feeling not wanted and low self esteem. There are different kinds of rejections but every one of them leaves the person in the state of abandonment.

Handling rejection is the most difficult aspect of dating. One of the reasons men and women hesitate from approaching each other for a relationship is the fear of being rejected. Approaching a woman for a relationship is naturally the responsibility of the man especially in this part of the world, but having a woman tell you “no” is a good reason why most men suffer from approach anxiety. It is also a reason some people act awkwardly when approaching people.

It is a truism that everyone at some point in life get rejected. Life doesn’t provide a group of “yes” people. When rejection happens, life continues, and we become strengthened by the lessons or the results of the rejection. Often, rejection tends to open doors elsewhere we’ve never sought.
Rejection is not the end of the world even though many people are afraid of it due to the attendant negative self perception of worthlessness and insignificance. But, we must realize that it is an inevitable life experience that if properly handled can produce positive results.

It is true that rejection is hard to deal with, but only a person who comes up with a strong front even after being rejected is the one who succeeds. Rejection may be seen from a negative standpoint but it has a motivational force. Any person therefore, who perceives it as a motivation has the ability to move mountains. You can chose to see rejection as a motivating factor to get better.

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