Women are indeed a funny lot. When it comes to issues against men militating against them, they will present a common front to fight. But when it comes to women issues against each other there you will see them harden their mind, bring out the worst in them as they express their selfishness in holding tight what they claim is their own. You will wonder why a woman would not like to share her husband with another.
In the behaviours of women, you see hypocrisy at its highest. A woman desperate to marry would tell you that I will never be a second wife. “I can’t share my man,” you will always hear them trumpet. Check properly this same woman is the same person dating a married man. He dates the man and enjoys all the fun and privileges the woman at home will not get.
The woman at home will know that her husband is dating babes outside. She knows that she can’t stop the man’s habit because she may have tried without success or attempt to interfere would cost her marriage. So, she relaxes and waves the man on pleading that he gets careful in order not to infect her or bring other afflictions to her.
I have heard women declare, “I know that my husband is after women, anything you do men will still be men, and can you stop them? Let him do whatever he likes outside but not to the point that I will know. Let him be careful about the sake of my untrained children.” Unwise ones among them will launch into attack with everything at their disposal to ward off external interference. Some succeed, while some burn their fingers in the process even to their own embarrassment.
Question is why would a woman not allow her fellow women to be brought in as second wife? One, they will wax biblical and tell you that their bible forbids it because it said one man one wife. Some people interpretatively say the bible never instructed that but stated that if you can be the husband of one wife. They forget that culture is die hard. They forgot that polygamy is part of the culture of the black world.
They forget that polygamy is still very much in practice indirectly though no matter how they pretend about it.
Today they demonize polygamy as archaic, invitation to trouble and label it with all manner of negative adjectives. Same people are also busy keeping many side cocks and side chicks. There is so much lamentation that the level of infidelity is high among couples yet hypocritically we condemn polygamy
Everywhere you look today there is a glut of marriageable women who are roaming the streets. Many of them are above their prime, resourceful, educated, and beautiful and desperately searching for a man’s hand in marriage. Except you are so close to one you may not understand the mental agonies our unmarried ladies encounter.
If simple disagreement occurs leading to altercation of words, they will attribute it to their unmarried life. In some homes they become a problem to the family and in some cases some parents and their siblings make life unbearable to the extent they are forced away from the home. They suffer rejection and are often the object of caricature.
In search of solution they suddenly turn born again hobnobbing from one prayer house to another. In frustration and desperation many of them resort to fetish practices to grab a man by force. In most cases where they succeed the marriage hardly survive and they are back to base. Some of them that are resourceful often fall victims to smart guys who scam and milk them and dump them leaving them worse than they were.
These are common problems of women you would think that they will be moved by sympathy to accommodate their fellow women, but they will have none of it. Someone once asked humorously “that thing they don’t want to share with their fellow women if they are allowed is it something, they can finish all alone.” Women are like that proverbial dog that picks a big bone and rushes to a corner to consume it alone and fights off any aggression to share with others.
Incidentally it is the same women that badmouths and mock their fellow women because in their views getting a husband is like winning a challenge cup and everyone should do her own winning. You sometimes wonder if these are not the same women who cry of men’ marginalization and seek to protect their own.
The glut of women has created prostitution and other unwanted conducts that lowers the dignity of women, the supposed mother of every man. Sometimes you will wonder where women have kept their brain when they tell you that men of God are against polygamy. These same men of God are the ones rocking all the women including the married ones in their churches and they are all aware yet pretend. The level of immorality in the church is beyond compare.
Shockingly too the bible is replete with stories of men who like Solomon, David and others who married many wives but they are quick to tell you that is the old testament which has lost relevance because of the coming of Christ. The New Testament is what is acceptable to them. If the Old Testament is not relevant why preach it in some cases and discard it at times, and why make it available in the first place. Again, they forgot that Christ is a fulfillment of the law as he stated.
Our people are copying Oyibo culture of monogamy but forgot that they keep their mistresses and indulge in polygamy indirectly through the divorce processes that make them change women at will at the slightest chance. Our culture does not encourage divorce nor keeping of mistresses except in very extreme cases.